The weekend and Sat drama
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charlottezwebI can't remember Friday at all. A worked, so I hung out with the baby. I know that, but I can't remember it. Hmm. We probably took a walk... and, wait, I remember cleaning up parts of the house so we wouldn't have to do it all Sunday. Sunday was also fine--the baby went to nursery while we went grocery shopping, finally, and hung out for a bit in the house before picking him up. A worked, the baby and I saw grandma and ate cereal before bed. He fell asleep abt 630pm--turns out he has a cold.
Saturday was a decent day--A came with me to PACT (parents and children together), and then since his fishing plans were canceled, we decided to go out to Barnes and Noble and to the grocery store, but the baby was tired from PACT that he fell asleep on the bridge, so we turned around and came home. A got a call to go out that afternoon, so he headed off to Big John's with M. I rested until the baby woke up and then took him to B&N for some train table goodness and blessed coffee for me. JN met us there but I felt bad bc R decided he wanted to read more than play with trains, so we didn't get to chat much. After 2 hrs there, it was too late to grocery shop, so we went home and then it was bedtime for R. A got home abt 1145, after an exciting evening of bar hopping.
He had some great stories for me so I stayed up for another hour to listen, and since he didn't remember some of them in the morning, I'm glad I did. I particularly enjoyed the story of how and why he back handed and then front handed M, as if he were calling him out on the field of honor. Why? Because M, once again, sought to insult my husband by calling me, his wife, fat. Once again. Because M who has problems with his own wife throws that in there any time he wants to really "get" A. I spent some time thinking about this yesterday.
There are of course a couple of problems with this approach--1. Both of us realize I'm fat. This is not news. The first time we dated I was this weight. The second time I was bigger--I was 70 lbs more at the wedding.
2. Clearly, A doesn't mind. See above for my continuing fatness during our relationship and friendship. He is very clear about what he thinks of me and my zaftigness. So, um, calling me fat is not an insult, it's a statement of fact. Of course, the part A objected to was the attempted insult.
3. Why would you say you're my friend and then try to insult me behind my back? Why would you say your A's best friend and then insult his wife to his face?
4. Why does he keep hitting on me if he has such a problem with me.
(OK, 3. and 4. are rhetorical--he hits on everyone--and I know he's not trying to hurt me or A even, he's just trying to make the biggest "burn.")
5. M forgot something else important. We have another friend, KS, about whose mother all kinds of jokes are made. His mother is gorgeous and young, as she was only 18 when KS was born. My mild mannered husband has always said that if KS had punched someone when the jokes about his mom started, he wouldn't still be hearing them.
So, when M made what was intended to be a derogatory comment about me, A double slapped him, saying, "Don't ever talk about my wife like that." The bar sucked in its breath, M apologized, and they went drinking for another 4 hours.
Saturday was a decent day--A came with me to PACT (parents and children together), and then since his fishing plans were canceled, we decided to go out to Barnes and Noble and to the grocery store, but the baby was tired from PACT that he fell asleep on the bridge, so we turned around and came home. A got a call to go out that afternoon, so he headed off to Big John's with M. I rested until the baby woke up and then took him to B&N for some train table goodness and blessed coffee for me. JN met us there but I felt bad bc R decided he wanted to read more than play with trains, so we didn't get to chat much. After 2 hrs there, it was too late to grocery shop, so we went home and then it was bedtime for R. A got home abt 1145, after an exciting evening of bar hopping.
He had some great stories for me so I stayed up for another hour to listen, and since he didn't remember some of them in the morning, I'm glad I did. I particularly enjoyed the story of how and why he back handed and then front handed M, as if he were calling him out on the field of honor. Why? Because M, once again, sought to insult my husband by calling me, his wife, fat. Once again. Because M who has problems with his own wife throws that in there any time he wants to really "get" A. I spent some time thinking about this yesterday.
There are of course a couple of problems with this approach--1. Both of us realize I'm fat. This is not news. The first time we dated I was this weight. The second time I was bigger--I was 70 lbs more at the wedding.
2. Clearly, A doesn't mind. See above for my continuing fatness during our relationship and friendship. He is very clear about what he thinks of me and my zaftigness. So, um, calling me fat is not an insult, it's a statement of fact. Of course, the part A objected to was the attempted insult.
3. Why would you say you're my friend and then try to insult me behind my back? Why would you say your A's best friend and then insult his wife to his face?
4. Why does he keep hitting on me if he has such a problem with me.
(OK, 3. and 4. are rhetorical--he hits on everyone--and I know he's not trying to hurt me or A even, he's just trying to make the biggest "burn.")
5. M forgot something else important. We have another friend, KS, about whose mother all kinds of jokes are made. His mother is gorgeous and young, as she was only 18 when KS was born. My mild mannered husband has always said that if KS had punched someone when the jokes about his mom started, he wouldn't still be hearing them.
So, when M made what was intended to be a derogatory comment about me, A double slapped him, saying, "Don't ever talk about my wife like that." The bar sucked in its breath, M apologized, and they went drinking for another 4 hours.
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Date: 2008-02-27 03:30 pm (UTC)Good on A. M sounds like an idiot. Here's to clearly drawn lines.
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