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[charlottezweb]

Mmm, sour cream and onion potato chips for breakfast... So very healthy for my parasite. We've made it to 16 weeks, which means we're smack in the middle of the 4th month (pregnancy months are weird)--I'm less depressed than I was and less sick, but still having to be very careful about what I eat and still prone to sudden mood swings. Am starting to see entity in uterus as less of an alien and more of a baby. Have learned not to have juice or milk before bed.

Have also learned that many of our friends are not very supportive, which is v. disappointing. Would be nice if anyone else around here were pregnant or had a baby already, but we're the first and no one understands why we/I can't go out very much and are exhausted so soon in the day. I'm supposed to have dinner with a friend tonight at 5pm after work, but she wants to change it to 7pm--have to explain that by 7pm, I've already had dinner and am looking for an excuse to go to bed. Am usually in bed by 830pm, but the alarm goes off at 530am.

Have had a lovely time picking out baby supplies--Acey, who was not that interested in all the wedding fuss, has been most involved with every step of the baby process--has even gone to baby stores with me several times. I have become obsessed with strollers though and had two dreams about them--in the second, our stroller had gone to the dark side and was being controlled by Darth Vader.

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[eleanor.livejournal.com]

It's not just the pregnancy stuff, which I wouldn't know aobut, having bought my kids at a KMart Blue Light Special. (Actually, it was Macy's, but that's another story.)

People without kids tend to not understand the demands of kids, or why anyone would want them. It can actually be worse when the kids get older, if you have friends who don't like the particularl personalities of the children in question. Of course, this is true if you work in a demanding field with lifestyle constraints, too; for instance, if you need to be up at 4 0r AM to be on top of international markets, or if you work in entertainment and need to be up until all hours. Basically, in many instances, people don't make adjustments to the changing lifestyles of others.

This is OK. As time goes on, you'll all adjust, and you'll meet more people who share your own concerns. For now and the next few years, I suggest that you're very firm both about your desire to get together with people, and about what your window of opportunity is.

Good luck!

[porcinea.livejournal.com]

I think she should move. Tee hee.

[eleanor.livejournal.com]

Oh, not that you're biased or anything!

[charlottezweb.livejournal.com]

Hold your horses, woman, I can only pack so fast.

[charlottezweb.livejournal.com]

Heh. I always assumed you picked them up at Bendel's.

That's a good point--our friends fall into two groups, those who work M-F and those who have a much more varied schedule, and there's not much uderstanding between them. And it doesn't help that no one else wants kids for a long time.

Thanks, that's very comforting. :)

[eleanor.livejournal.com]

See, I wanted the family that was for sale at Bendel's, but I was working in publishing at the time and couldn't afford it. The Macy's unit was identical, except that it was previously used and needed some work once I got it home!

I'm glad it helped.

[redbird]

I've never been pregnant, nor plan to be, because I know myself well enough to know that I don't want that level of responsibility for that long. Which is different from not seeing why people would do it.

More to the point (I'm tired, and hence digressing), I thought everyone (a) knew that pregnancy is often tiring, and (b) was aware of other conditions, both temporary and permanent, that can leave a person with less energy and enthusiasm for going out, and thus knew that this is Something That Happens to Humans Sometimes.

Good friends will, if/when you have the energy, find ways around that, including being the ones to do the traveling, perhaps showing up at your home with a pizza/takeout/whatever fits your metabolism right now.