Interaction this week
Jul. 11th, 2008 09:53 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
charlottezwebI've been trying to be more social, both in person and online, and this week has gone pretty well. I spent Weds after work at a friend's house playing with her daughter and hanging out. Oddly enough, her BFF in HS was my BFF in grade school (Lisa C who lived two doors down from me back then). Then I was invited to the beach on Sun but I can't go because my boys get back into town Sat night and I'm not leaving them for a while. I talked to P on the phone last night for abt an hour and then got an email from an old friend this am. I need to plan a drive up to Cola in the next month or so, but otherwise, along with my comment whoring online, I'm feeling more connected than I have lately. Which is nice. It's so easy to get into the work, dinner with family, bed routine and I don't set aside the energy or the time to make calls to old friends much less new ones. My goal for this summer is to try to remedy that--get into a habit of emailing and/or calling at least once a week and planning an in person activity once a week.
The problem has been that I'm not enjoying hanging out with a lot of my old friends (Not P and H, btw)--I like them, love some of them dearly, but I don;t want to go out and drink or go to someone's house and watch people get drunk and worry about insulting someone (which happens more than it should, thank to my lack of a curbed tongue). I also hate trying to watch the baby at someone else's house (kid free house) and it's hard to get people to our house, because we have a kid. And possibly because I'm there, which is sortof deserved. We were having luck with having people over for dinner on Fridays, but we got poorer. of course, I think we could do spaghetti or something instead of steak and still invite people.
But I'd like to make sure that A and I each get some social time each week with our friends and I also want to make playdates for R, if not weekly, maybe biweekly. I do know people with kids, I just have to actually email them to set things up. I was thinking doing a mass email with a drop in playdate once a month, but I'm not sure how it would work--supposed I could just try it and see.
It's funny how stuff from childhood is still such a big deal--I have to actively fight the idea that people don't like me when I'm calling or setting up some activity--and even as a child I had friends, I wasn't a big loner, but, well, it's hard to explain the battle ground that my life was then. (yes, yes, the world's smallest violin, whatever, I can whine up my own lj if I want) Anyway, rambly, but if I write it down, I've got a better chance of making it happen.
The problem has been that I'm not enjoying hanging out with a lot of my old friends (Not P and H, btw)--I like them, love some of them dearly, but I don;t want to go out and drink or go to someone's house and watch people get drunk and worry about insulting someone (which happens more than it should, thank to my lack of a curbed tongue). I also hate trying to watch the baby at someone else's house (kid free house) and it's hard to get people to our house, because we have a kid. And possibly because I'm there, which is sortof deserved. We were having luck with having people over for dinner on Fridays, but we got poorer. of course, I think we could do spaghetti or something instead of steak and still invite people.
But I'd like to make sure that A and I each get some social time each week with our friends and I also want to make playdates for R, if not weekly, maybe biweekly. I do know people with kids, I just have to actually email them to set things up. I was thinking doing a mass email with a drop in playdate once a month, but I'm not sure how it would work--supposed I could just try it and see.
It's funny how stuff from childhood is still such a big deal--I have to actively fight the idea that people don't like me when I'm calling or setting up some activity--and even as a child I had friends, I wasn't a big loner, but, well, it's hard to explain the battle ground that my life was then. (yes, yes, the world's smallest violin, whatever, I can whine up my own lj if I want) Anyway, rambly, but if I write it down, I've got a better chance of making it happen.
