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[charlottezweb]

So I just needed to rant and vent a minute because I am seriously still so pissed about my ex-midwife and it's only now that everything's calmed down and I've had some time to think that I've realized how angry I am.

She lied to me! Flat out lied. Lied! How can a medical provider do that?? (rhetorical) WTF?

1. She lied to me about a VBAC. If Dr Wilson hadn't brought it up, I'd never have known it was an option, never have prepared for it.

2. She lied to me about my blood sugar--told me it was high and signed me up for unnecessary tests trying to prove that I'm diabetic.

3. She, if not lied, inflated the danger the baby and I were in with my blood pressure. The baby's pulse rate was normal for 9 weeks and mine was easily controlled with a bit of medication. She told me I was going to kill the baby with my crazy idea of waiting to to talk to the endocrinologist.

4. She was super freaked out that I couldn't get an immediate appt with the endo, implying that I had to see someone right away for the health of the baby. Both Dr Wilson and the Endo said that the baby would be fine, especially at this stage--although it would be different if I were hypo.

Ok, I feel a bit better. Just listing it all out helped. :) And I really like the endo and my new OB so things are going much better now. but still, grrrrr.

Comments

[lorres.livejournal.com]

Would you consider either talking to your midwife about this or writing her a letter? I actually might make her think twice the next time if she knows that she's being contradicted by another professional (not to mention the facts).

Might take her down a peg or two.

[charlottezweb.livejournal.com]

I've been worried about doing anything directly since I'm still at the same practice, but I may say something as things progress, and I may have to as I was originally supposed to see her again.

[lcohen]

argh. the problem here is that the kind interpretation is that she's an ignorant idiot. but i'm so glad that you got more information--i have my own story from childhood of the misdiagnosis of my asthma. the medical profession has its share of idiots and assholes but it's terrifying to encounter one.

[charlottezweb.livejournal.com]

That is the kind interpretation. :) I'm not sure I'm so charitable. Mostly I'm leaning pretty far in the other direction. It is hard to deal with idiotic medical personnel, especially if you come from a family where you don't question doctors (luckily, I don't but I have friends who do)

[hfnuala.livejournal.com]

You are right to be angry. Her treatment of you sucked.

[cobrawoman.livejournal.com]

Is there a professional organization for midwives? Does she belong to it? If so, you should write to them about her. (Copy her if you want.) I'm not entirely sure how much of what she said might have been supported by a different medical professional, but, considering it hasn't been this time, she'd have done well, at the very least, to take a different tone with her recommendations. And yeah, I think the way she treated you is awful. I was glad to read what the doctor had to say.

[charlottezweb.livejournal.com]

Hmm, I don't know. But probably...using my google-fu, it looks like cnm's are part of the nursing association in SC. I'm just worried that writing a letter or making a fuss will impact the care I'm getting now--I wonder if it would be too late if I waited until after the baby comes?